Unequivocally, I promise that if you have to pretend or be deceitful in a relationship, or work hard in the beginning to make it work in the end, you will spend the rest of your life dealing with the status quo. Some may argue differently, but I strongly believe that you know very early in a relationship that what you are feeling and sharing is the real thing and that it has potential to stand the test of time. When red flags present themselves, however, that is the time to take a step backward and to consider your wisdom in going forward. Holding on with false hope to save face or because of a fear of what others may think, is a mistake that all too frequently is made by some very unhappy people.
I talk as frankly as I can here because there are those very near and dear to me who, I have a sneaking suspicion, have yet to experience true love in its glorious, heart-throbbing, mature, as-it-should-be form. That is personally troubling and very sad, to say the least.
Having the strength and foresight to end an ill-advised, rather one-sided relationship, a young woman talks openly about heartbreak and understanding the "differences of love". In so doing, she performs a great service for those struggling as she once did. I quote her words verbatim here in the hope that they will have impact where I feel it is most needed. She relates it as only someone who has been there and done that can.
Her bottom line message: As difficult as it may seem at the time, there can be life after the devestation of an unfortunate emotional entanglement. Embrace it, learn from it and live in it.
A "Brave" Young Woman Takes Control