I have written about this before, but in my earlier years (between the ages 14 and 24) I was under the naive and mistaken impression that life was pretty much predestined. I thought that all you had to do was just wait for things to happen and for opportunities to almost magically present themselves. What did I know? No one ever told me otherwise.
Quite honestly, I spent the first quarter of my life living in some kind of dream land, not understanding that I was wasting the most important and formative period of my life on fantasies -- a time when I should have been focusing on, and preparing for, the direction in which I wanted to go. Oh sure, I knew that I wanted a good job and the wherewithal to nurture and to support a wife and family. There was just one big problem...I had no idea of how to go about it.
Looking back, I don't think that I believed in myself all that much and failed to get serious about what I wanted to do vocationally until it was almost too little too late. No one ever suggested that from the very beginning I had the ability to take control of my inner powers to direct my subconscious mind. At no time did it dawn on me that I could eliminate negative thoughts with positive beliefs and that I could tell my inner powers exactly what I wanted.
I am thinking here especially of my two grandsons, one who is just completing high school and another who is several years removed from it and still considering his options. I want them, and other young men their age, to know what I have learned the hard way -- that inner powers are always working for them, always creating and shaping their lives. These powers simply respond to instructions and, given the right directions, they will most assuredly get exactly what they want. It's all about attitude, setting goals and preparing for the future with drive and dedication.
As you think about dreams and what's important in moving toward an ideal lifestyle, you might realize that we all are either moving toward or away from dreams and ambitions. If we procrastinate, we are putting off dreams; in some cases for a few years or maybe forever. When we delay dreams, we miss out on life.
The ideal is to live dreams NOW before is is too late. It is important to take some action each and every day, no matter how big or small, as dreams are pursued. It is a valuable exercise to see yourself actually achieving your goal and then tracing the steps that you took to attain success.
Here's the bottom line: If you are not living the life you want, if you have yet to attain the success yearn for, if you are not in the relationship you want, if you are not as healthy as you want to be, then you are not sending the right messages to your subconscious mind and your inner powers. When you doubt yourself and lose confidence, you are conditioning yourself to struggle. You get used to it, doubts continue and things progressively get worse.
No one ever attained instant success or received a lucky break without working for it. Breaks are self-created, make no mistake about it.
Do your research, young fellows (girls too, for that matter). Study the traits of successful people. Don't be shy in talking to those who are already in the field(s) or discipline(s) you are considering. You will be surprised at how much they respect your interest and they will be flattered by the fact that you sought them out for information. The bonus?...The more you network in this way, the more doors will open for you down the road.
Don't be like the frog laying on a rock in a stream with its mouth open in the hope that a bug will sooner or later fly into it. Be the aggressor. Turn things around by taking charge of your destiny. Consider well your thoughts, beliefs and attitude so that they are focused on what you want and not on what you don't want. Leave doubt and insecurity to the losers.
Also, don't be afraid to start out in a menial job as a means toward an end, if that is what it takes -- and it usually is. It was a rite of passage experienced by your father and your grandfathers before him. You have to start somewhere and the sooner you begin picking up your own tab the better. Gain all the education, training and experience you can along the way. It cannot help but result in dividends in the long run. Understand that in the business world, cream is recognized as such and always rises to the top.
Shed complacency about your future. Get busy and stay busy. Be the best of what you can be as you work toward a desired goal; even extending yourself if and when needed.
By all means, make time for a social life and any hobbies that you might have, but not at the expense of achieving your goals. It's all about priorities and the focus to stick to them. We all need healthy balance in our lives and we learn as we grow older to juggle a job, family responsibilities, special interest activities and spiritual needs. Self-fulfillment is a must for all of us, as is fun in all things. That's what we call life as it is meant to be.
Don't be like me in 50 years and say: "if only I'd known then what I know now..." I want to save you from all that guys!
In conclusion, I would say good luck, but it has been my experience that you make your own luck too.