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10 September, 2017

COME ON FOLKS, LET'S LEAVE THE HATE OUT OF POLITICS!

I grew up in a large close-knit family in the 1940s where it was inevitable that during special gatherings my dad and uncles would go off by themselves and "talk politics."  There would always be a lot of loud vocalization, punctuated by roaring good-natured laughter, all of which was tolerated by the women exclaiming "they're at it again!"  I kind of got a kick out listening and marvelled at how seemingly informed -- and opinionated -- they all were.  I never once heard foul language or anything resembling an argument, just good-natured jousting that would end with slaps on the back and a toast of some description as the dinner table was being set.  In truth, that was my first realization that views can differ when it comes to politics but they do not have to lead to hostility, and that no one ever really wins an argument when taking sides. To this day I prefer a rational presentation or discussion of the sides, if in fact there is one.  

It is now clear to me that in North America we are increasingly stuck in a cycle of political hostility bordering on outright hatred. Political parties encourage citizens to “take a side,” and taking a side too often entails becoming irrationally defensive over that side, while ruthlessly bashing the other.

This aggression has ultimately resulted in a range of violence, from citizens being assaulted at political conventions for supporting a candidate of their choice, to students being ostracized in classrooms if they dare to share a political view that opposes the majority. Day after day, Facebook and Twitter news feeds are filled with one-sided political messages (generally of a chain variety) which fuel anger and polarization, while leaving no trace of collaborative solutions to pertinent issues.  I am also increasingly offended by ignorant and uncivilized name-calling and personal insults levelled on upholders of one particular political persuasion or another.

How will defending a political party, mainly because it is “your side,” and hating on the other side, make our country a better place to live? Bashing others, whether it be a person or a political party, does not lead to solutions.  This vicious cycle of aggression is serving as a barrier to collaborative solutions and rational compromise. So what can we do?

The answer: Stop being a hater! Every citizen has the power to break this cycle of aggression, and to fuel a new cycle of collaboration. Here is how to start, as I see it:

1) Recognize Defensiveness
We are all guilty. If we have chosen a political party, we have unfortunately become accustomed to being defensive of that party, even before we know the facts (not to mention that the “facts” are often difficult to come by). The first step to ending the cycle of aggression is to recognize our own defensiveness. Ask yourself these questions:

• Do I understand the wants and needs of both sides?

• Do I have all of the facts?

• Can I be sure that my “facts” are viable?

• Will being defensive of “my side” make this country a better place to live?

2) Stop Reacting, Start Listening
Once we recognize that we are being defensive, it is essential that we stop defending and start listening to what others have to say. Ask yourself these questions:

• What is the underlying want or need that is being argued for?

• Do I understand the want or need of all parties?

• Is that want or need a human right?

• Will that want or need cause harm?

• What might be a logical and fair compromise?

3) Recognize Flaws of every Political Party
Every political party is flawed, including our own. Every political party is guilty of repeatedly committing acts of hate and aggression. And every political party is failing at collaborating with one another in order to reach compromises and create positive change. It is essential that we choose to see and acknowledge these flaws, so that positive progression can be achieved.  Ask yourself these questions:

• Is my political party collaborating across political parties to reach rational compromise and create positive change?

• Is my political party causing harm to anyone or anything?

• Is my political party discriminating against anyone or anything?

• Is my political party respecting human rights of all people?

4) Post Mindfully
What are you posting on social media? We are responsible for fueling the cycle of aggression. One-sided political posts often fuel anger and hate without providing opportunities for collaborative solutions. Instead of posting or sharing one-sided comments, problems or solutions, focus on the need and eliminate the bashing on others.

Before posting something to social media, ask yourself these questions:

• Will this post fuel anger, hate or defensiveness? Will it offend (even some of my friends)?

• Will this post provide or deter an opportunity for collaborative solutions or rational compromise?

• Does this post bash anyone (a political party or a person)?

• Does this post focus on the need, or focus on the hate?

5) Choose Collaboration
The paradigm of “us versus them” serves as the greatest barrier to progress and solutions. Instead of focusing on the best interest of our political party, we need to focus on the best interest of all citizens, and the nation as a whole. We all have the power to choose collaboration by working to understand all sides of the want or need at hand, and by exploring and inviting compromises and solutions.

As a Facebook participant, just for once I would like to see someone post original thoughts on a political issue that contain a balanced presentation of facts leading to the basis of a reasoned opinion. What would be wrong with actually altering someone's political thinking in a positive way, as opposed to offending it with insulting innuendo. That should be the objective of all political pronouncements in the public arena.

Political leaders, regardless of party affiliation, are failing to work together to understand all angles of issues in order to produce progressive solutions. Instead of commending the bashing between political leaders or candidates, ask for collaboration. Recognize that every time a political leader attacks another, they are perpetuating the cycle of aggression, and creating a barrier to collaboration.

Good Lord...What is the world coming to?

I should not have felt compelled to publish any of this.  

The sad part of it is, I predict that 98 per cent of those reading my comments will continue to demonstrate hate for political opposition, resort to unsavory language when other words fail and persist in circulating (copying and/or sharing) unoriginal third and fourth-party material in support of their views on social media.  Something about politics in general that feeds a need for aggressiveness in human nature that can be so damaging and unhealthy in a society today that is already taxed with more than its share of unpleasantness and man's inhumanity to man.

Please tell me that I'm not asking too much!

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