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24 September, 2015


In the past I found myself judging just about everyone I met and, sadly, not always in a positive way.  It took me a long time to realize that in negatively judging others, I imposed negativity on myself and it did not feel good.

What type of person do you always catch yourself silently judging?

Is it people with weight issues?

People who live in nice houses and have expensive things?

How about people with addictions like smoking or gambling?

How about control freaks who seem to mega-manage everything?

How about blatantly opinionated people?

How about those who for some reason annoy or frustrate you, but you can’t quite put your finger on why?

Let’s face it! Sometimes even the best of us judge others in ways we’d hate to be judged ourselves.
Why do we do this? Is it out of habit? Or is it an unconscious behavior? And most importantly, how do we let go of the need to judge others and ourselves?

Well, I have found that it’s actually easier than you might think! Here’s how to stop judging people, in two simple steps!

Step 1. Be aware of your thoughts.

When you become aware of the thoughts that are not serving you, you can then guide them towards a more positive path.

And the more you reflect on them, the easier it will be for you to discover where your frustration is coming from and why are you are so quick to judge someone or someone’s situation, and in most cases, without knowing the true facts.

Step 2. Focus on the positive.

Remember that there’s ALWAYS something positive you can find in other people, and when you focus on the positive, amazing things start unfolding.  For instance, you stop focusing on yourself (and your frustration) and you start empathizing and appreciating other people’s qualities, and you open yourself up to all of the great things they can offer.  After all you can't change other people...Why dwell on them?

So…next time you catch yourself judging others, consider what flaws your subconscious judgments of others actually reveal about YOU, and then work to release these negative judgments from your mind.  Let go of the negativity that knaws away at you.  You will live a much happier life!
Trust me, I know from personal experience.

It's pretty crazy how a seemingly tiny shift in your mindset can make such a HUGE impact in your career, your finances, your relationships, your peace of mind -- everything.

Negative Personality Adjectives

Most people would consider the character traits described by the personality adjectives below to be "bad" or negative. This is generally true, but remember that there can be exceptions. For example, for a policeman "aggressive" might be a negative trait while for a boxer it might really belong to positive personality adjectives.    

* i.e.: aggressive,  aloof, arrogant, belligerent, big-headed, bitchy, boastful, bone-idle, boring, bossy, callous, cantankerous, careless, changeable, clinging, compulsive, conservative, cowardly, cruel, cunning, cynical, deceitful, detached, dishonest, dogmatic, domineering, finicky, flirtatious, foolish, foolhardy, fussy, greedy, grumpy, gullible, harsh, impatient, impolite, impulsive, inconsiderate. You get the idea!

Most people would also consider the character traits described by the personality adjectives to be "good" or positive. This is generally true, but remember that words are often used subjectively. For example, "determined" is considered a positive personality adjective, while "stubborn" can be considered as a negative personality adjective, yet the meaning of both can be very similar. The choice of a word sometimes says as much about the author as about the person being described.

So be careful in how you choose your words...Society being what it is today.

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